Welcome Wildflower. I am so happy you are out and that you and the children have never been happier, I bet your husband is too. Funny thing I thought my kids would miss something about the organization but they thank me and their dad almost everyday for getting them out. We look forward to hearing more from you.
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Introducing myself.........
by awildflower inhi all, i've been reading this site for about a month now and decided it was time to jump in.
it is truly a blessing to have people who know exactly what we are going through.
some background, i'll keep it short:.
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Friends, Study Partners, and then GONE...
by ptucker8357 inabout a year and 12 ago, after much conversation with a jw co-worker, we began a formal study.
we studied religiously (no pun intended) almost every week unless i was on business travel or there was a sickness or other item that precluded us from getting together.. .
during that process, we became very strong, close friends... at least that is what i thought was happening.
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Ptucker, welcome to the board. Take my word for it (I've been "in the truth" my whole life) it's not you! My only associates were JW's for 40 some years, none of them have anything to do with me except for a small handful. My "whole life" and if I'm not one of them, I am nothing, even to my parents! He had the agenda and probably genuinely liked you but the agenda won out. As above posters mentioned be glad you didn't get sucked in anymore than you did. Again, welcome and keep reading.
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How long were you a JW and how far up the "ladder" did you get?
by Gram insince there are lots of new people, how about we resurrect this thread..
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Born in. Baptised at 17 (was always dragging my feet a little). Couldn't climb the ladder, I'm a girl, supported my husband as he climbed the ladder.
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Did you come here on JWD/JWN because of congregation injustice?
by asilentone ini did, but i have never told my story, i could not tell you my story here because it would be too revealing as to who i am.
if i did not experience like what i have experienced, i would probably avoid those damn apostate sites like this site!
well, i think it is a blessing for me to join this site because i have learned alot!
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Berean, I can't wait for my husband to read your post, it's what he has been saying for many years, that there is something majorly wrong with the organization. For me, injustice within the congregation, was something that I thought was rather unique to my family and my locale. When I read of everyone else's experience it actually made me see that it was nothing personal.
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Spiritual education of my son....
by Albert Einstein in7 years my son was spiritualy educated as a future jw... my wife still is a faithful witness, so i cannot tell him straight "wtbs is a bunch of liars and hypocrites ...." he would be confused and would go to mom to ask if its right.... so i started explaining him indirectly, leting him to got to the conclusion himself.
we have several topics.
my favourit one is:.
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You have your work cut out for you, keep it up.
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My JW Daughter sends a Letter to us Explaining her Shunning of Me
by flipper inmy wife and i sent my 22 yr.old pioneer witness daughter and her husband a anniversary card and $ 40.00 and flowers the end of april.
my daughter wrote mrs. flipper and me each our own individual letters thanking us initially for the gifts - and then went into detail as to why she has not spoken to me for over a year and shunned me.. keep in mind as i paraphrase some of the highlights to these letters that the only negative thing i have said about the organization to my daughter in 3 years was to show her the ap news release about the child abuse settlements by the wt society .
i'll quote parts of the letter to mrs. flipper first :.
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Wow, she sounds so sweet and innocent. Don't you just wish you could shake her awake! She reminds me of myself when I only had a 22 year old vantage point. I, too shunned my father since the age of 14 he tried to keep in touch for awhile then he must have given up, now would you believe, I can't find him (very common name, unfortunately). I wish I could tell what I know as a grown up woman with kids almost her age. All I can say is follow Hassan's advice and keep making gestures like you did ( an anniversary and not a birthday, smart).
Posts like this remind me that we got ourselves and the kids out just in the nick of time before something like this could happen in our family. All the best to you!
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I would like know how you first found this site, and what was your first experience on here like?
by BonaFide inmy experience?
in the past few years, i liked to research stuff on the internet for talks.
and for experiences, i used to google jw's to see news articles.. then one day last year, i saw this site, and it said that it discusses anything related to jw's.
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When I went back to college I stumbled on the silent lambs site (probably 2003). That stuff really bothered me, plus I was seeing some it play out locally. I kind of tried to get it out of my head thinking "God, the society is right when you go back to school all these bad things happen". Then something happened when I was sitting at a meeting in May of 2008 and I knew I could not go to one more meeting and I didn't (I am a lifer). I didn't stumble on this site until July. Wow, then I had all the information to back up what was only a gut feeling before. There were so many doctrinal inconsistencies that I never knew about. So many people wondering all the same things I was since I was a little kid. Then so many stories about lack of love and back stabbing that I only thought my family endured. I heard other people talking about all the things I've wanted to scream from the roof tops for a life time. I think this site saved my sanity. Still just love to pour a cup of coffee and read all the posts of an old random poster or search certain topics.
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So girls...any weird things happen behind the "Sisters" door?
by bronzefist indon't mean to pry, and i don't mean sexual things, but juni told me a strange story about rude "sisters" and mirrors.
hopefully she'll elaborate..until then what really goes on in that bathroom????
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I didn't let my little boys use the bathroom or leave my side at the KH. We had a sexual predator newly released from prison at the hall ( that's the one I knew about). We also had a lot of really mean little kids, so I don't know how unusual that is.
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My elder attacked by a demon!!!
by Albert Einstein inlast year we had a "sheperding visit" by two elders (one is aged 45, another one 28).
the older one is ... how to say it politicaly correct .... is not very smart guy.... the older one wanted to stress the importance of being close to jah.
so he he mentioned he is sometimes under demons atacks, they visit his apartment, turn on the light, and the other day ... imagine ... he was lying in bed, and the demon had come and laid on him, so the poor elder couldnt even breathe ... only calling upon jahs name did save him!
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He'll probably never believe that there is a physiological reason for his symptoms because calling upon god makes it go away. I have heard many JW's tell their bible studies that report hearing voices that it is the demons . It's hopeless to try to educate them. One told me that Satan wants us to believe in diseases like schizophrenia.
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...Jehovah`s Witness`s have the most Stable Marriages...
by OUTLAW injehovah`s witness`s have the most stable marriages..very few jehovah`s witness`s cheat on thier mates..most jehovah`s witness`s stay married for thier entire lifes to the same person..jehovah`s witness`s have the happiest marriages!..becoming jehovah`s witness`s,has saved many marriages..................................................my experience has taught me none of that is true.................what is your experience?............................outlaw.
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My elder father and pioneer mother got divorced. Through the years most of the couples that got married around the same time are divorced. Right now, in our locale, I know of about 5 pending divorces. One couple, husband is an elder. Another was only married 3 wks. I totally agree that getting married for the wrong reasons (sex) and the headship thing is the reason. Then I know of many many very unhappy JW marriages. Usually headship is to blame. Example wife is working but he still expects dinner, shopping, childcare and laundry to be done by her.